Adams Wife’s Weblog

Due to an unforeseen misunderstanding caused by one of my Facebook posts I have recently determined not to talk about my daughter online.  Oh, but I want to.  It’s not really her, it’s her ex-husband, but the principle is the same.  He has pulled some really stupid moves lately that I’d love to be able to discuss with a few thousand of my closest friends.  But I can’t.   As he has recently become engaged to a lady who has no way of knowing what he is capable of I would really like to give her some advanced warning.  However, we all know you can’t trust anything the ex-wife or former mother-in-law might tell you.  So, I guess she’s on her own.

Now, on a lighter note:

Adults have learned

Great truths about life that adults have learned

1. Raising teenagers is like nailing Jell-O to a tree.
2. There is always alot to be thankful for if you take the time to look. For example: I’m sitting here thinking how nice it is that wrinkles don’t hurt.
3. One reason to smile is that every seven minutes of every day someone in an aerobics class pulls a hamstring.
4. Car sickness is the feeling you get when the monthly payment is due.
5. The best way to keep kids at home is to make a pleasant atmosphere and let the air out of their tires.
6. Families are like fudge….mostly sweet, with a few nuts.
7. Today’s mighty oak is just yesterday’s nut that held its ground.
8. Laughing helps. It’s like jogging on the inside.
9. Middle age is when you choose your cereal for the fiber, not the toy.
10. My mind not only wanders; sometimes it leaves completely.
11. If you can remain calm, you just don’t have all the facts.

So - I was going to post about my daughter’s wedding.  I had hoped to post a picture of the happy couple, but I can’t get them to stand still and let me take a picture.  They had been talking about marriage but had not set a date.  Then they decided to do it the next day, it being Laura’s birthday.  However, as so often happens, everything went wrong including the judge not being available at the last minute.  They were unable to get the deed done for one reason or another for the next few days.  Finally ended up being married on Shane’s birthday, five days later.  And they went alone to the courthouse and had strangers witness the ceremony.  They talked about having a party for their friends and family to celebrate the occasion, but that never happened, either.  So, no pictures, no stories, no fond memories.  But - they are married and seem to be happy with that arrangement.

I went to Twin Falls (actually Buhl) for a week recently (for the Fourth of July).  Got down the freeway, about half-way, and remembered my camera was not with me.  I’ll be going again in August, so I promise to take some pictures then and post them for your enjoyment.  I had dinner with a lady who graduated from high school with me.  It was a very lovely evening.  Then I had lunch with a cousin, my sister, and an old friend of ours.  We laughed and laughed and ate lots of good food.  And while I was there I saw my chiropractor (I have one here in town, too, but he’s not quite as good).  I got up one morning with a backache so bad that I could not stand up straight.  I’d been seeing my local chiro and was making progress, but the lady I see when I’m ‘back home’ is just that little bit better than him and started me really making progress.

I saw my surgeon yesterday.  He says I’m doing very well and healing nicely.  My nose still tends a bit to the left, but not enough to worry about (he straightened my septum along with every thing else).  I have the sensation in the back of my throat that something is caught there and needs to either be swallowed down or coughed up.  Apparently it is scar tissue.  It will take 3 to 6 months for it to soften up enough that I don’t notice it anymore.  Man! am I ever looking forward to that.

I’m beginning to feel more like myself.  But that brings up a question:  Who am I?  I have spent so long feeling worse and worse and worse that now I’m not sure what normal is all about.  I’m beginning to want to do things that have been neglected for months.  Today I’m very excited to be going on a short shopping trip.  It’s my first time to leave the house other than seeing the doctor.  Is that pathetic?  Or is that a sign of returning good health - a sign that I’m finding the real me?

I’m also excited to feel well enough to spend time at the computer again.  I’ve missed visiting my blog buddies and keeping up with Facebook and Mingle.  I’ve started looking into some of my favorite blogs and catching up with my old friends.  It’s a bit like coming home after a long absence.

The weather is still lousy, but predicted to clear off and warm up.  I am anxious to get outside and go for a walk.  I want to feel the sun warm on my face, to see the flowers and trees in bloom and enjoy the green of grass and leaf.  I want to take a walk on the Green Belt by the Snake River, to visit all the places I love there.  And I want to take some new pictures.  It’s been nearly a year since I took a new picture.

Although Easter just passed it looks more like Christmas outside my window.  The grandkids are having their first snow day out of school for this year.  If this is global warming, I hope the globe never cools.  We frequently get some snow in April, sometimes a really big storm.  But it is usually an isolated storm and the sun comes out the next day.  End of snow.  This year it’s like December in April.  This isn’t our first snowfall of the month and likely won’t be our last. Â

I’ve missed all my online buddies these past few months.  Unfortunately I can’t guarantee that I’ll be around much more than I have been.  I’m having health problems that have been quite serious at times.  Sitting at the computer makes it harder to breathe.  So I’ve been spending only a little time at it each day.

I’m facing surgery for sleep apnea in the next few weeks.  My right shoulder has been bothering me for a couple years, but I can’t have it fixed until after the other surgery.  I’m not healthy enough to have surgery on my shoulder. :-S  If you are at all interested in what I’ve been facing, look up sleep apnea, Pickwickian syndrome, and third space (interstitial) edema.  That hits all the high spots.  The thing is I’m retaining water which interferes with my ability to breathe which causes me to retain more water.  It’s been nearly impossible to even get out of the basement some days because my breathing has been so bad.  I finally got smart and started using my oxygen in the daytime as well as at night.  I already spent 3 days in the hospital having tests because my heart was hurting.

The good news is that I’m not as bad as I could be and I’m better than I was.  Please pray for me that this surgery will make me all better.  The success rate is only about 50%.  I’d hate to go through all this and still be the same. LOL

I’ve never thought too much about it, but my daughter was born on the Sabbath Day.  In fact, she was born on Mother’s Day.  What a great gift!   So today I want to say how grateful I am for her.  She has brightened my life since the day she was born.  At this point in our lives we take care of each other.  Sometimes I’d very much like the privacy of my own place - it’s just natural to want to be in charge of your environment.  But most of the time I’m grateful to have her and the kids so close by.  They keep me from sinking into myself and becoming a total hermit.  During all the years when Ed was traveling cross-country driving truck she was there beside me.  We are a good team and usually bring out the best in each other.  I wanted a big family when I married, but was only able to have her.  If you have to settle for just one of something it’s good to get the best.

I’m not doing really well getting a post up every day, but I’m not going to let that stop me!  I’m back and I’m glad to be back among my bloggy friends.

So - Friday the Thirteenth.  Never been a bad day for me.  I could change my mind about that today, though.  My cold was worse today and I wasn’t feeling very good.  Then I had to log in to training for my new job from 2:00 ’til 9:00.  I was tired before we started.  A lot of information about technical equipment covered tonight.  I’m not really good at that kind of thing.  I’m better at customer relations and account balances than coax, satellite dishes, or access cards.  For me one wire is pretty much like another.  I even have to stop and think about it before I know which is the male and which the female end.  lol  If our need was not so great right now I’d throw in the towel and holler “uncle.”  I’m more than ready to go back to napping every afternoon at 2:00.  And this new schedule is wreaking havoc with my blood sugars.  Got low enough last night that I couldn’t type I was shaking so hard and then bounced up to 175 after I got something to eat.  I gotta work out my meal times and snacks a whole lot better than I’ve done.  I am, however, determined to get through this and to do well.  I’m to stubborn to give up. Â

Each time I’ve sat at my computer today I’ve wanted to add a post to my blog.  But I didn’t know what to post about.  Then I read my e-mail.  This essay so eloquently says what I’ve been feeling for days that I had to share it with others.  I hope you’ll take time to read it.

But you don’t look sick.

I promised pictures and a report on my Memorial Day weekend.  I admit - I’ve been lazy about getting the pictures ready to post, but today is your lucky day.  First off - the motel where we stayed.  I usually stay at a small, old-fashioned motel in Buhl, close to my sis.  However, I waited too long to call for a reservation.  I ended up booking reservations through Price Line.com.  We stayed at the Comfort Inn in Twin Falls for $35.00 a night.  That included a free breakfast (we mostly went for the Belgian waffles and biscuits and gravy).  So - here’s the motel.

Comfort Inn

Comfort Inn

I neglected to take a picture of our rental car.  But here is a stock photo of a Nissan Sentra.  We got that through Price Line, too.  Only $30.00 per day with unlimited mileage.  (Next time I’m gonna start even lower and see how cheap I can go.)  lol

Nissan Sentra

We had steak and lobster at the Sizzler Sunday evening.

Sizzler

We went to church in Buhl.  There was a beautiful tree in bloom just outside the church.  I think it’s a flowering crab apple - not sure.

Tree in bloom

Close up of tree in bloom

It was a good trip.  We enjoyed ourselves very much, just visiting with family and friends and taking it easy at the motel.  Sometimes the simplest entertainments are the best.  We had one disappointment - the hot tub was having problems with its thermostat.  We tried it one night, but it was too hot to get into (we’d have looked like our entree at the Sizzler and been just as well-done.)  We asked about it later, but were informed that it was still running either too cold or too hot.  Dang!

More Tomorrow!

It’s a beautiful, sunshiny day today.  I slept about 10 hours last night.  Think I need to get out and enjoy some of this lovely sunshine.  If I can find my camera I may even take some pictures.  lol 

There has been a lot happening in my life lately.  Most of it I just don’t want to talk about.  A lot of sickness in my family.  I went to visit my sister and she had been hospitalized by the time I got there.  

We’ve decided not to sell the house and move at this time.  The kids have lost their dad, their dog, and their trampoline.  Mom and Grandma are both going to be starting to work soon.  We didn’t think they needed to be uprooted from their home, too.

Nutri-System was not a good match for me.  Not fading away into a size 6 anytime soon.

I recently started seeing the same counselor who is working with my daughter and the grand kids.  He tells me I’m depressed and in denial.  After thinking about it I’ve decided he’s totally right.  So, I’m working on relocating out of Egypt and back into the real world.  He also said I haven’t yet mourned the loss of my husband.  He’s right again.  I’ve had too much to do taking care of my daughter and her kids and trying to keep things on somewhat of an even keel.  Who has time to mourn?  I’m working on that, too.